The importance of asking questions with psychic work - Conversation with Sue.
In the conversation, 'Ronnee' is Me and for reasons of confidentiality, I'll call the student 'Sue'.
Please note: Sue is not new to psychic work and has been working with me for quite a while. She is already a professional in other areas of psychic work and was at the time of this conversation expanding her ability for spirit work so don't expect to be as aware as her when you start. Some people will need to work up to the level of sensitivity that Sue has.
To help you understand where we were in the conversation, someone had mentioned the similarity in energy between the spirit that Sue had been talking about and a troublemaking spirit that she had dealt with previously months ago. Her comment made both Sue and I realize that she was right. He behaved in a similar manner to a guide that had been around and although I had picked up on him, I'd had no time to give him my attention and neither had Sue, but this drew our attention to him and we realized the differences between him and the guide that we first assumed he was.
Sue: I want to figure out the best way to deal with him. After last night I knew I was the one who was to deal with him. Sue means rather than having myself or somebody else remove the spirit as a few of us had detected him.
Ronnee: Hey Sue, do you think it was this spirit who was playing with the chime?
A couple of weeks earlier, Sue had mentioned that something kept moving the chime in her bedroom at night when she was asleep. Although Sue did not wake up, her husband noticed it each time. They hang on the end of the curtain rod in Sue's bedroom so they really sit against the curtain fabric and only dangle if the window is open and it's really windy. On these evenings the windows and curtains were closed so they would have to be bumped or touched to jingle. There was nobody else in the room so it was a suprise to Sue's husband who is not really involved in the psychic work that Sue does and could not explain their movement.
Sue: Possibly - I remember when I asked my guides I heard 'playful'.
That was the first opportunity for Sue to ask more questions. As you'll see from her next comment, she assumed that the spirit was a guide by the name of Mark that came to her not long before this. Although this is a perfectly understandable assumption (because he did behave like Mark), this is a good example of why the guides always say 'Never assume anything'. They taught me to keep asking questions until I feel in my gut that I have the correct answer.
You won't know which questions will bring important information, but each question you ask that gets an answer will help you to know what other questions to ask. If you don't get an answer to a question, simply try approaching it from a different angle asking the question in another way or ask a different question altogether until you have enough information to go on. If absolutely nothing comes through, try a little later.
It's important not to do this when you're tired, emotional or sick unless it is a very annoying situation that will not wait and sometimes it's better to ask someone else for assistance because it's easy to miss important details when you're under the weather. Never do psychic work when under the influence of drugs or strong medication as it effects how your energy works.
Ronnee: Hmmm...That's interesting because this man certainly is playful isn't he? So it describes him well.
Sue: Yep - and I was assuming it was Mark.
Ronnee: We've both been busy so it's only natural that we'd take a while to get to it, but I now am getting the feeling that he's been around you for a short time before that. But that's okay. He's harmless, just annoying and playful as the guides said.
Sue: That's right. I don't feel threatened.
Ronnee: A good lesson for us all to 'not assume' and to always 'double check'.
Sue: Exactly.
Ronnee: Do you feel him around you today?
Sue: Yes I feel I can almost see him today after thinking about it a lot.
In the next comment below, I'm referring to an email Sue sent me where she was talking about the evening before where she had felt the need to protect herself and the family whilst falling asleep. She felt that she was irresponsible by not having done more, but she was too tired to do more. Sue was concerned that she should have made herself stay awake until she’d felt that she had removed the spirit.
Ronnee: Oh, I just read the bit in the email where you said you were probably being irresponsible. I disagree.
Sue: Oh ok
Ronnee: It's better that you'd slept rather than deal with him while you're tired and also, if he was dangerous to you or the family, you would not have been able to sleep because you would have felt it. Your sense would have told you how dangerous he was because it always does.
Sue: Yeah true
Ronnee: Even though you may not have been aware of it at the time.
Sue: Last night I felt more of a 'possibility' feeling - that there could be some acting up but that it wasn't threatening in a big way or you are right, I wouldn't have slept.
Ronnee: Now, the point you made about Mark not presenting himself is true. That's also one of the things that helped me realize it wasn't him. He always comes through and let's us see him first.
Sue: Yes!
Ronnee: Good move on his part. Now, I want you to think about what else you picked up out of the energy the other night that you took for granted. Tell me what they are - even the ones you already know about if you like. I mean anything you picked up out of the energy that you didn't already recognize.
Sue: Yep ok
Ronnee : You were able to go to sleep because you recognized how dangerous he was - that is to say that he wasn’t really dangerous. That was one thing that you probably didn't think of at first so just go through the whole thing in your head and ask questions such as: "Why did I do that? What did I feel that made me do that?"
Sue: ok
Ronnee: This will tell you what you were picking up from the energy that you don't consciously recognize at first. Oh, and it's not silly by the way. It took me a long time to learn which questions to ask. (I'm referring to a comment that Sue made in her email about not knowing which questions to ask)
Sue: Yes and you are great at it so that's why tips from you are MUCH appreciated.
Ronnee: Thank You. I-m happy to help. It's taken me years and years to know exactly what questions to ask so don't feel inadequate if they don't come to you immediately.
Sue: Ok, well something I just remembered, that I haven't felt before (or noticed), is a cold feeling in the bedroom - probably colder than normal and that was the first little clue to a possible presence. Now that I think about it, a couple of nights ago while watching tv I felt quite cold for about 5 minutes even though the fireplace was on.
Ronnee : Ahhh...very good. Now did they both feel the same?
Sue: Yes - it was a different kind of cold - one where even though it is winter, I didn't think it should be that cold at the time but because it IS winter I also doubted what I picked up.
Ronnee: Very good. See how you need to notice the subtleties? If your instinct says there's something not right....even the slightest, you need to look at it again.
Sue: I have also seen flits of energy around for a while but haven't known whether it is just energy, guides being around, etc.
Ronnee: Okay. Did you stop and ask questions at any of those times?
Sue: One time I did and I felt it was just energy...but the last couple of days I have seen flashes here and there but just wondered without actually asking - I have been very slack in that regard. It has also been on my mind how you and the guides have said the energy needs to be clear around here and it hasn't been lately so I felt this was making it harder for me. (Sue refers to a message from her guides reminding her to clear the energy around her home).
This is incredibly common. Most of us wonder and don't actually think to hear the answers that come with our wondering. Just wondering about it is actually asking too although we rarely do it expecting an answer so anything that comes to us will be instantly overlooked. If we make sure that we then go on to ask questions, we'll usually get some information to go with and if not, then change the questions until you do.
Sue: Well when we got some cleaning/tidying done I could feel the difference...and you know what...Jordan (Sue’s husband) is the one who lit some white sage when the loungeroom was clean...almost like it was instinct.
Ronnee: Very good.
Ronnee: Let's assume that EVERY thought that pops into your head is not just idle thoughts.
Sue: ok
Ronnee: Every single little flash, every little feeling or word or image is important yes?
Sue: Yes
Ronnee: That's what you need to teach your brain. Then after you write it all down, at the end of the day, you can sit and analyze it and over the week you'll see how things tie together.
Sue: Yep because I thought I was taking notice but then there is all this stuff that makes sense in hindsight.
Ronnee: It's the same for everyone and even now I still forget things and need to remind myself of them. It's something that you'll do for the rest of your life. You have to live your life and can't focus on psychic work all the time so it stands to reason that you'll forget things and need to refresh on them - no big deal.
Sue: Yep. Well I do think the chime was related to that fellow.
Ronnee: How long ago was the chimes? That was last week wasn't it?
Sue: Chimes was maybe a couple of weeks ago. Last night I had the instinct to use the pendulum to determine for sure but I didn't do that at the time.
So Sue had first noticed the chimes in her room moving 2 weeks ago, then energy flitting around her on and off for about a week, then in the last two days she noticed the cold.
Ronnee: Any other subtle things? Thoughts flashing through your mind? Feelings?
Sue: I almost feel like my anxiety last night was a subconsious acknowledgement that we had figured out something yesterday - even though we didn't know the whole picture with Mark yesterday, I think we were tipped off at a spirit presence.
Ronnee: Okay. good.
Sue: Yep...actually I would walk past a door and jump thinking someone was there! How can I forget this stuff?
Ronnee: Because your brain is not programmed to recognize it as being significant and remember it. When was that?
Sue: That was in the last couple of days too.
Ronnee: How many times do you think roughly?
Sue: Maybe only a couple of times...actually I would think there might be something out of the corner of my eye a couple of times...then it was in the last couple of days I walked past Christie's room of all rooms, (Christie is Sue’s daughter) and jumped because I had that instinctual reaction that someone was there but then I rationalised it because the change table was there if you know what I mean?
Ronnee: Yep.
Sue: And perhaps the last three or four days I have felt increasingly 'yuck' when coming into our bedroom. Just slightly but the feeling was there.
Ronnee : Ahh...also interesting. He's obviously been in there so you've picked up on it.
Sue: Yep.
Ronnee: Anything else come to mind? What have your thoughts been like? Sometimes we can pick up on their excitement, anger, nervousness etc. and not realize where it comes from. Perhaps you'd feel something and wonder why. There may not have been a cause or reason for it. You may not necessarily experience that, but it's something to consider.
Sue: hmmm....I can't think of anything at the moment - not in the last week or so.
Ronnee: Okay. That's fine. That's a pretty big list.
Sue: Yeah and I feel silly now that I think of all those things! I'm glad he wasn't a threat.
Ronnee: You know what? If he was, you would have known because the messages would have been more urgent.
Sue: Yes...I think if he was a threatening type I would have taken more notice a lot sooner!
Ronnee : That's right. At some point, energy would have come through that you would have sensed the need for caution. Even the sneaky ones that try to hide their energy will relax sometime and that's when you'll pick up on their true intent in some way or other.
Sue: Yep.