by Ronnee

Spirits are People

First of all, it's really important for you to realize that spirits are just people (although even animals can communicate with mediums) but for the sake of ease I will focus on people with this information.

When someone dies, their spirit is intended to cross over to the other side and return home. However, some people don't immediately cross over for a variety of reasons and it's these earth-bound spirits who tend to wander into our homes and want to stay around us. We may have visits from loved ones 'checking in' but it's not always someone we know. So don't assume that having spirits around means it's your loved ones and that it's a good thing for them to be there. Spirits who have crossed over do not have that 'need' to stay around the physical, whereas earth-bound spirits still have their physical personality and way of thinking and often are trying to maintain their physical connections by staying around us. They will need help at some stage to cross over so that they can move on, whether it be from a Guide or a person.

Some people believe that demonic entities exist, but in my experience any such appearance has always been a false front by a normal spirit. Spirits who wish to cause mischief do have the ability to appear in a form that may at first appear scary but it's only a person. They simply manipulate their energy to appear differently. Even with my very first experience with a very nasty spirit who appeared as a demonic type of character, I could still feel the 'person' behind it so don't let Hollywood hype or other people's imaginations convince you that they are anything more.

Just as in physical life, where people may lead each other astray, spirits can do the same thing with each other. You may need to remove a leader in order to help other spirits cross over. I've seen situations where other spirits are feeling a little lost and end up falling into a situation where they just cooperate with spirit who has a stronger personality or someone they feel safe with because they're unsure of what else to do. Don't worry about feeling overwhelmed with a group situation. Find the ring leader and deal with him/her first in whatever way is necessary - crossover or removal.

Alternatively, if the ringleader is absent at the time and you're in a position to help the group members, feel free to do so if they are ready.

Attitude

Your attitude is extremely important in dealing with spirits. As they usually have an issue of some sort to deal with, you will need to be sensitive to what is preventing them from wanting to cross over.

Some will cross over eagerly and quickly and of course like any psychic work, rescues can be tiring, so you're aiming at assisting them as efficiently as possible. It's important that you don't try to solve all of their emotional issues for them before crossing over. There are guides awaiting them on the other side who can do that for them. You simply need to have them willing to go along with crossing over. While communicating with the spirit, you may need to constantly adjust your approach to achieve a favourable outcome.

Should you be informed by your guides that it's not your job to help them cross over, you can help them move away from your location with a positive feeling about crossing over and maybe even the hope that one day they will be guided to the person who can help them achieve it. One positive comment should be enough for this. Don't feel concerned that you'll need to go into deep therapy sessions. Remember that they may be sensitive and many are still the same down-to-earth people they were when they lived - and sceptical, so they may not tolerate more than a brief conversation regarding the issue.

Ensure that you remember the responsibility of your role in this before you deal with them. Always go over the possibilities of what could happen to make sure that you are prepared for any eventuality. If you are not, then do not attempt to deal with spirits because like us, they can be unpredictable and a spirit which is relatively peaceful can become aggressive if the person dealing with him/her is not being sensitive to their mood. If you are not prepared to deal with it, you could inadvertently create terrible repercussions for yourself and anyone around you. The other possibility is that you may actually make it harder for the spirit to cross over and ultimately, this is what we want them to do - return home to love. So if you are not prepared or confident with it, then just ask or tell the spirit to leave and hopefully in time they'll be guided to the person who can help them.

Commonsense is always needed when dealing with spirit too. Just look at it as if dealing with another person. That's exactly what you're doing. Understanding and politeness is the key, but if you feel any deception or mischief is involved and they just keep messing you about, encourage them to leave the area. Some people may (in the spirit of helping) try to persist with a spirit who is causing them trouble. Don't bother. Just help them move on and they will eventually find someone who can help them.

Also know that at all times you must be calm, but strong and in control of the situation and you DO have control. Believe that. The only reason a spirit can seem to have temporary control is if:

• you don't have enough information to deal with it;
• do not have the psychic talent to sense it;
• you believe that you have no control in the situation;
• you are caught unawares, which can soon be fixed anyway.

In which case, calmly regain control, find someone who can deal with it or send him or her away. Whether you are sensitive to them psychically or not, asking them to leave is sometimes enough to convince them to move on.

You should not allow your own emotions to become involved, but you will need to have understanding with the spirit because each one is suffering some sort of pain or situation. Just find a way to make the spirit feel calm and open to crossing over without letting yourself become too emotional or distracted from that purpose. The difference between the reaction of each spirit is how their pain affects them and of course this depends upon their experiences.

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